Wednesday, January 7, 2015

A Year Ago

One year ago this week I got on a plane and officially moved away from my family, and moved away from Hal. When we came to DC the August before last all we had was a car load of stuff, that would last us the planned 4 months we would stay. I moved myself out here with one suitcase and a carry on; and left so much I loved back in Utah.
Hal and I spent the next 7 1/2 months living apart. Over 7 months.

I'm not going to lie, there were some pretty terrible months for both of us and our relationship.

How people do long distance long term I will never know.

We lasted over 7 months, and I don't think either of us would do it again unless absolutely necessary.
It feels like a million years ago that I got on that plane all alone. So much has happened since then.

Was my keeping my job and starting a home out here worth living apart and the stress it adds to your relationship? Honestly, I don't know. There are lots of positives and blessing that have come from my job. I solely supported Hal and I during his last semester and through the summer. But was that worth living apart? Would I do it again? I don't think I would.
We did it and I'm glad we made it out the other side with a stronger relationship, but having gone through that experience, I think I might choose the sacrifice that means staying together next time.

4 comments:

Torrie said...

Lessons learned the hard way are no fun, but they seem to be the ones that last the longest. Glad you two have been reunited at last! Here's to happier and better times from here on out :)

Susannah said...

I'm so glad you're back together. Hopefully you won't ever have to go through long distance again.

Autumn said...

We did 3 months and we've had to deal with Devin traveling 60%+ in a year since we moved here. I know what you're going through and it is so, so incredibly hard. We chose financial stability, which is nice, but when I've seen how difficult it was on our relationship I wouldn't choose it again either. I'm so glad this experience is over for you!!

Crazy Shenanigans-JMO said...

I'm so happy you guys are reunited and not having to distance!

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